Recalling her initial brush with fame, Mira Kapoor said that adjusting to a new life and moving cities was more important to her than media curiosity surrounding her marriage to actor Shahid Kapoor in 2015. “I was not pushed into this situation. Absolutely not. I know exactly what I was doing. I didn’t realise what the perception of me was till like a year or two into it. So, I think I was a bit oblivious to what was going on and how things were panning out. Now, of course, I am a lot more aware,” Mira said.
Admitting that some incidents affected her initially, she told Brut: “My friends at that time were not married. They called me up, and they are like, there are a bunch of reporters at the college gate. There was a time when there were a lot of these articles that came up, and I was wondering how people come to know these things. I actually asked Shahid, how do people get to know these things…they just make stuff up…It’s not like I am interacting with people or the media on a daily basis…that I have to be so hyper. Sometimes, I read stuff about how I was in college and all this stuff…and I am like, where are you getting this stuff from…but may be, now, I am a little more seasoned to let it be.”
The mother of two continued, “At that time, I think moving cities was the main thing for me, making new friends. Also, my friends at that time were not married. So, finding that connection where we are in life, finding a new rhythm was more (necessary)…Why does someone care so much to make something up about somebody they don’t know?”
Mira and Shahid Kapoor (Photo: Mira Kapoor/Instagram)
So, how has she managed to stay grounded despite the constant spotlight? “I don’t think I ever stopped being myself. I still am myself. That’s what kept me sane and normal because it’s one part of someone’s life,” said Mira.
What does her experience hightlight?
From a psychological perspective, Mira’s experience highlights the emotional complexity of marrying into fame and managing the intense media curiosity that follows. “Such a sudden shift in visibility can challenge one’s self-concept, boundaries, and sense of autonomy. Mira’s ability to stay grounded and self-assured reflects emotional maturity and identity stability which are traits that help maintain balance amid public scrutiny,” said Dhara Ghuntla, psychotherapist, independent practitioner.
However, if not handled well, this experience can lead to significant psychological distress. “Constant comparison, invasion of privacy, or online criticism may trigger anxiety, self-doubt, or even depressive symptoms. Individuals can begin to over-identify with public perception, losing touch with their authentic selves,” added Dhara.
The key lies in developing healthy boundaries, nurturing supportive relationships, and engaging in self-reflective or therapeutic practices.
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“Mira’s example reminds us that while fame can amplify visibility, it also tests emotional resilience—making inner stability more important than external validation,” said Dhara.
Here’s what can help build emotional safety and identity strength in this transition according to Delnna Rrajesh, psychotherapist, and life coach
Anchor in your individuality: Marriage should expand you, not consume you. Keep your personal pursuits alive.
Create emotional boundaries: Not every part of your marriage needs to be public. Privacy is power.
Protect old bonds: Friendships may change form, but nurturing them protects your emotional grounding.
Develop shared rituals: Coexistence thrives on shared connection, not enforced merging.
Speak your truth early: Unspoken resentments in the early years often turn into emotional distance later.
